By: A girl who’s definitely not waiting for Prince Charming - he can text me when he finds parking.

You know that moment - you’re minding your business, sipping your iced latte, living your best life, and suddenly someone decides it’s time to ask the most exhausting question in the book:

“Sooo… why are you still single?”

Cue the dramatic music.

Honestly, I’ve been asked this question so many times I could add it to my LinkedIn skills section. And depending on the day, my response varies between “Because men are trash” and “Because I love myself too much to share my fries.”

But since I like to keep things classy and spicy, here are some of my favorite answers—and my unfiltered thoughts behind them.

1. “Because I haven’t met anyone who makes being single sound like a bad idea.”

Translation: My peace is expensive.

If your presence costs me my happiness, I’ll take solitude with a side of sparkling wine, thank you. I’m not single because I can’t find someone. I’m single because I won’t settle for someone who makes me wish I was.

2. “Because I’m holding out for a plot twist.”

Listen, I’m a sucker for romance. I want the kind of love story where he’s late, it’s raining, and he runs through the crowd yelling my name. Okay, maybe not that dramatic - but at least something better than a “u up?” text at 11:47 PM.

I want the spark, the chemistry, the effort. Until then, my Netflix queue and I are doing just fine.

3. “Because I’m the main character - and this is my character development arc.”

Every heroine needs her solo season. This is mine.

I’m learning, growing, thriving, and occasionally crying over romantic comedies—but that’s none of your business. When someone finally enters my story, they’ll be the plot enhancement, not the plot itself.

4. “Because I’d rather wait for love than waste time on maybes.”

Being single isn’t a punishment - it’s a filter. I’m not interested in halfway love or convenience. If you can’t show up with consistency, communication, and maybe a little coffee, then I’ll happily keep showing up for myself.

5. “Because I’m busy building the life someone will want to join.”

I’m investing in my dreams, my skin routine, my bank account, and my joy. I’m not sitting around waiting for someone to “complete” me - I’m the whole damn set. When love comes, it’ll be a bonus, not a rescue mission.

6. “Because being single is actually kind of fabulous.”

Let’s be real - there’s something wildly freeing about doing what I want, when I want, with zero “babe, where are you?” texts. I flirt with waiters for fun, sleep diagonally, and spend my money guilt-free on scented candles and sushi.

If that’s “sad,” then please - don’t save me.

7. “Because I’m single, not unfinished.”

There’s this unspoken assumption that being single means something’s missing. Newsflash: I’m not missing anything. I’m just not currently sharing my energy with someone who doesn’t deserve it.

The Bottom Line

So, next time someone tilts their head and asks that tired question with fake concern - smile, sip your drink, and say one of the above with confidence.

Because being single isn’t a flaw, a phase, or a failure - it’s a choice. And until love feels like peace, not pressure, I’ll be over here loving my life, my independence, and my perfectly toasted avocado toast.

What about you?

What’s your go-to comeback when someone asks why you’re still single? Drop it below - I might need new material for my next awkward family gathering.