Let’s be real - online dating can feel like scrolling through an endless parade of shirtless bathroom selfies, vague one-liners, and guys who “totally love to travel” (but only have one photo from a Vegas trip in 2012).

So how do you spot the gems in the mix? The men who are actually worth your time? Don’t worry - I’ve got you covered. Here’s how to recognize a good man on a dating site:

1. He Actually Wrote Something in His Bio

If his entire profile is just “Ask me anything” or a random emoji, keep swiping. A good man puts in a little effort - he writes more than one line, shares a bit about himself, and gives you something to start a conversation with. Effort = interest.

2. His Photos Don’t Make You Cringe

Good guys usually post normal, everyday photos: smiling, out with friends, maybe hiking or at a game. If every photo is him flexing in the mirror, holding a fish, or mysteriously cropped so you can’t see his face - yeah, maybe not.

3. He’s Clear About What He Wants

A man who knows himself will say so. Whether he’s looking for a serious relationship or something casual, he won’t be wishy-washy about it. Mixed signals? Hard pass.

4. He Knows How to Hold a Conversation

Pay attention to his messages. Does he ask you actual questions? Or is it just “hey” on repeat? A good man will try to get to know you instead of only dropping compliments about your looks. (Because yes, we already know we’re cute.)

5. He’s Honest - Not “Too Perfect”

If his profile reads like a résumé for “World’s Most Amazing Man,” something’s off. The right guy is open, a little vulnerable, and doesn’t try to sell you a fantasy. Perfection isn’t real - authenticity is way more attractive.

6. He Respects Your Boundaries

This one’s big. A good man won’t push you to meet up before you’re ready, won’t flood you with messages if you don’t reply right away, and definitely won’t pressure you into anything you’re uncomfortable with. Respect never goes out of style.

7. He’s Consistent

Bottom line: a good man does what he says he’ll do. If he promises to call, he calls. If he says he’s looking for a relationship, his actions back that up. No ghosting, no mixed signals, no “sorry, I’ve been soooo busy” excuses.

Final Thoughts

Finding a good man online isn’t about decoding secret signals or overanalyzing every word - it's about looking for patterns: effort, honesty, respect, and consistency. When you see those, you’ll know you’ve found someone worth your time.

Until then, keep your standards high and your swipes strong.